I don’t come from a broken home. I didn’t grow up poor, hungry or without resources. In fact, quite the opposite. My family is unbelievably supportive and I have been fortunate enough to live a pretty luxurious life. I have experienced a huge amount of joy in my life and have been blessed beyond words. Sounds perfect, right?
Despite appearances, I struggled just to make it through adolescence. BIG TIME.
Primary and Middle school was brutal. In primary school, I was being very different. While the other girls were soccer players and hanging out in groups, I was interested in fashion, blogging and horses. As a side effect, I ended up being pushed aside because I wasn’t a part of the group. I was looking forward to Middle school because it hopefully meant getting friends. At this point, hormones were raging and although girls around me were developing, I was still flat chested and thin. However, I did well in school, had developed a unique style and was proud of being different. We had a program in school called MOT (COURAGE) that encouraged everyone to believe in themselves and have courage to live life, say no and care for others. This was my internal turning point. From then and onwards, I worked for MOT, started writing articles about teenage issues and were active in politics. My love life flourished as I got my first boyfriend and I spent hours reading love poems on Tumblr, figuring out how love really works. Despite that I did so well, the struggles continued. I was popular among the boys and teachers, which made me a threat to the other girls. Then, my boyfriend dumped me, and I spent months in a heartbroken state. I was still excluded, lied to and made to feel inferior. I bawled my eyes out, wondering why other girls were so cruel.
High school was rough. New problems created new fears, stressors and pressures. Like many others, my most embarrassing moments inevitably became the hot topic of conversation at the lunch table. Over-achievement culture perpetuated my perfectionism. Parties led to poor choices that fueled the rumor mill and ignited school hallways with whispers. Stress and overwhelm were baseline emotions. I felt like I had to adjust my personality to fit in, but I was starting to feel alright with being different. Dating was confusing and competitive. Conversations with my parents turned into heated arguments. I felt criticized, judged and misunderstood. I was angry. I was obsessed with everything, all at once. I tried to unite all my hundreds of interests and dreams. I was blogging, working at a part-time job, trying to be social, dating, doing home work and preparing for an endless amount of tests. Suddenly, BOOM, and I hit the wall. I had overworked myself, chasing perfectionism.
I packed up and got the heck out of dodge. Out of my two gap years, I traveled the world for about a year in total. I escaped Norway to do the journey of my dreams: I did volunteer work in Cape Town, saw the true gap between rich and poor in India, did awesome island hopping in Thailand, explored Bali’s tropical landscape with my American boyfriend, went by bus along the whole of Australia’s Eastern coastline, felt at peace in Fiji, lived the California dream and watched the sunset on the edge of Grand Canyon, was blown away by the wild life in Ecuador, could see the Machu Picchu with my own eyes in Peru, did another crazy roadtrip in USA and ended up soaking sun on the islands of Maui and Oahu in Hawaii. In some way, I hoped that it would never ever stop. In another way, I had cataloguged life-changing experiences that led me to one pivotal moment. My American boyfriend who I met in Thailand encouraged me to read about Life Coaching. Unfamiliar with the field at the time, my boyfriend described coaching as a profession dedicated to identifying and fostering personal strengths, facilitating action-oriented change processes and supporting others in reaching their greatest potential. The light bulb went on, and from that moment forward, coaching has been my passion and purpose.
Studies and University? In February 2018, I finished an online Foundational Course in Life Coaching at the Institute of Life Coach Training. That provided me with a different set of tools to use as a Life Coach. It took me a life journey around the globe, an introduction to Life Coaching and an existential quarterlife-crisis to decide how I wanted to create meaning for myself and others. In order to successfully fulfil millennials lives, I’m now ready to study Clinical Psychology and hopefully Positive Psychology in the future. I truly believe that young people who’s struggling want other young people to relate to them, and that’s why I’m here. I’m not only here to relate to them, but also provide them with tools to create a life aligned with their needs, values and dreams.
As you can see, although I didn’t grow up at-risk, I had my fair share of challenges. It is because of those challenges that I am deeply passionate about providing Millennials with exceptional support during their greatest times of need. My goal is to provide them with a judgment-free space to speak their truth. To offer them sound guidance, tools and strategies that will prevent them from falling into the deep, dark pitfalls of adolescence. To support them in achieving their greatest potential!
My struggles have taught me invaluable lessons that allow me to drastically shorten the learning curve for the Millennial generation.
I am truly honored to work with Millennials throughout such a monumental stage of life. It is a privilege to be let into their world, and I am grateful for the opportunity to affect positive change every single day. I greatly look forward to supporting you in maximizing your experience of the teen and young adult years.
In gratitude and service~